The 81

 I don't really use social media much to be honest. but I do frequent twitter the most often. It's not a bad way to keep in touch with current affairs seeing as all the global major media companies have a profile on it. So it's fairly useful in avoiding becoming trapped in a vacuum of the single voice.

Today, the Guardian (which is traditionally Man hating and white hating) posted an article regarding the 81 Women who have been murdered in the past 28 weeks in Britain, thought to be at the hands of a Male perpetrator

I wish I could say I was shocked, but I'm not. Heartbroken of course, but not surprised. To see the CCTV footage of Sarah Everards last known sighting before she was so callously taken from us is something I am never likely to forget. I wanted to write something at the time, but tears coupled with so much anger prevented me doing so

This is not a new phenomenon obviously, but the most worrying thing is it doesn't seem to be improving (It's definitely not improving)

Yes, more Men are being killed, but it's the vast majority of Men doing that killing as well. As is pointed out often, it isn't a pissing contest. Women are trying (and mostly failing) to project the point they are trying to make, which is such a shame because it's a very important point.

Running through twitter feeds such as the old #metoo campaign and the more current #notallmen hashtag devolves into a list of Women giving us "their story"

"I was 14 years old and I still remember a group of Men moaning as I was getting on my bike" was one such comment,

Oh I could go on, these types of comments literally fill the whole feed once these hashtags lurch inevitably onto trending topics.

These are exactly the kind of tweets that dilute any argument. I cant speak of how Women must feel, because I'm male, but I can most definitely speak about what it's like to be a Male that has had groups of leering Women catcalling him. Did I enjoy it? Not really, did it happen a lot? Yes it did. Have Women made passes at me continually in spite of my telling them I'm not interested. Lots.

I spent 20 years driving a cab. And I can say with all honesty that to go through a weekends driving without being groped by by 2, 3 or even 4 Women would have been a miracle, because it NEVER happened!

The last time #notallmen was trending I counted the tweets

3 complained that it wasn't all Men (1 of which was a Female)

4 decided to give their story about the one time a guy was looking at them a bit creepy

11 mentioned that the only people using the hashtag was to bash the actual hashtag itself

1,422 (The overwhelming majority were Women) were disgusted that Men were using the hashtag the day of Sarah's murderer being sent down for life.

Now obviously, every tweet is a constantly evolving beast, so my figures are just a snapshot in time. But, knowing as much as I do about exit polls I would imagine the figures would manifest in a similar pattern.

Ironically, there were 3 Women who had done similar to what I had done in terms of looking through the replies yet had come to completely different conclusions. I honestly thought that my feed was broken and there were in fact thousands of comments from Men being misogynistic that I had somehow missed (I hadn't, I checked again)

Luckily. 10 people commented that they were relieved to see that the vast majority of people were supporting the fact that it really is a bad hashtag

It told me that there are an awful lot of Women out there who are more than happy to slay a mythical beast of their own creation. But, the more they slay it, the bigger it gets.

Again, you're diluting the argument, but this time you're diluting it by making up an argument that exists only in your head

The fact is, murder is extremely rare and when it does happen it is mostly committed by Men. 

But what can we do about it? Well, a lot more than we currently are. 

But saying it is a Man's problem and only Men can fix it is to put it bluntly, wrong.

I never personally used the following argument but it's just as relevant as the argument above

Women are very much the majority when it comes to caring for children, many children are a product of single parents (of which the vast majority are Women) So Women are overwhelmingly the primary caregiver when it comes to raising boys.

How are they managing to to raise their boys so badly that they have such a low opinion of Women when they grow up?

It's a useless argument. Why? Because most Women are brilliant Mothers and even the very few who aren't usually don't end up raising murderers.

The problem lies within society itself. 

Society isn't some ancient tradition created by Men for the benefit of Men proudly manspreading itself  under the banner of the patriarchy smothering Women under the chronic weight of toxic masculinity

It's something we've all created and something we should all strive to improve.

You won't fix it by flinging shit at an entire sex demanding they be better.

I don't know the answer, but I do know that the current answers are not going to achieve anything other than more discord.

81 Women have been murdered since Sarah Everard. A frightening thought for me is since I first saw the Guardian headline and the time it's taken for me to write this post. There is a reasonable argument to suggest that it may now be 82.